My social world, as my perfectionistic brain views it, is laid out in perfectly concentric circles. There’s my friends, their friends, their friends’ friends, and so on, with only a few connecting lines in between.

“We have this sense that no matter how hard we work, we can never be enough, and to me, that is a byproduct of being told you have to be amazing at everything you do," said Rachel Simmons, a bestselling author, educator, and motivational speaker.